Hello, my name is Tanya, and I’m a happiness immunity survivor.
What is this disease? It’s the inability to recognize happiness unless it is over the top, wham-bam-thank-you ma’am, fan-freaking-tastic.
Everyone talks about wanting to be happy. I’ve noticed when we do – we speak of thrilling, momentous events: falling in love, winning the lottery and so forth. I did too. The ordinary no longer satisfied my thirst for happiness. Nope, I needed a big gulp of extraordinary to feel truly happy.
So does that mean only over-the-top moments can bring true happiness? Yikes, I hope not.
“Life goes on. Long after the thrill of living is gone,” John Mellencamp lamented in his 80’s classic “Jack and Diane”. Sounds pretty depressing. Yet many of us live this way, feeling lack in our lives because we expect big bursts of happiness from daily spectacular events. When those exhilarating moments don’t happen often enough to keep us thrilled, we become unhappy with our boring lives. We no longer see the extraordinary in the ordinary.
Fortunately, happiness immunity is totally curable.
- You must stop believing in the hype that in order for something to bring us happiness or thrill us – it must be larger than life. (Thank you Reality TV. Not)
- You must stop comparing what makes you happy to others. It’s not a competition!
- You must remember reality shows film for hours and whittle it down to 30-60 minutes of non-stop drama and excitement.
- You need to remember what brings you joy. And it shouldn’t be rare and unusual moments but simple pleasures that surround you every day.
For me those include:
- Emeril purring
- Palm tree outside my window
- Friends and family
- Flowers on my patio
- Wearing sandals every day of the year
Now I enjoy life’s simple pleasures every day and feel a greater sense of overall happiness. And those truly extraordinary moments are even more precious now.
The thrill of living is still here. And always will be as long as you chose it to be.