There is a natural tendency to look at our past, sometimes with regret and sometimes with joy. Sometimes we get lost looking behind and forget to look forward. And other times we’re all about #YOLO. Otherwise known as you only live once. Is there a happy medium?
I’ve caught myself endlessly reliving the past. Playing the shoulda, woulda, coulda game. While there are lessons to be learned from past decisions, the danger in lingering in the past is we forget to live now.
Been there. Done that. Kinda like to stop doing that.
YOLO may sound care-free, but I actually think it’s a little depressing. Cram so much into a moment because who knows when you’ll get the chance to experience it again. But that’s the problem. If you’re rushing an experience—are you really experiencing it? Or just enough to cross it off your list of to-do’s before you die? That doesn’t seem very YOLO to me.
I want to respect the past, live in the moment while still looking forward. I haven’t mastered that balance yet. In part, because I don’t know exactly what I want. Oh, I have some goals, but there are more like saving money for a Kitchen Aid mixer or a new sofa, rather than what does Tanya what to do with her life.
What is my purpose?
Is it something I should already know? Or something I figure out along the way?
Cue mystical voice, “Your purpose is to figure out your purpose.”
Yoda wouldn’t even be that vague.
I’ve sat on the sidelines for a long time. Observing everyone else. Wondering how they do it. It’s time for me stop wondering and start doing. To use the lessons I’ve learned from my past and start applying them to today and tomorrow.
I’ve shared this desire before but still kept sitting on the sidelines. Watching. Waiting. Wondering when you were going to pass the ball to me and let me enter this game called life.
I now realize no one tags you and puts you in the game. You have to do it for yourself.
You can enter timid and scared. Or too brash or cocky.
Or you can enter with an open mind and heart. Ready to grab opportunity when it presents itself or make it happen on your own.
I know what my choice is. While I’m still brushing away my uncertainty and fear, I’m ready to suit-up and be an all-star … yesterday, today, tomorrow and right now.